Public "play"

[Scott9468]

This will be our first trip to Desire, that being said. Where are we allowed to"play' in public?

[travmex]

They will spell it out to you at check in. But the reality is it really doesn’t matter that much because the ‘not allowed’ is never really ‘enforced’. So you’ll see it pretty much everywhere at some point. Your own decision will probably come from your own comfort level rather than rules. So just go with the flow when you get there.

[kbrady]

Exactly...you do you. Unless you are in a restaurant...you can do whatever you want, realistically

[ninaandfrank]

Since the original question was where is it "allowed"; the answer is in the Play Room or in the Jacuzzi lounge. If you slightly modify the question to where is it OK; well then see answers above.

[travmex]

Unless changed in the last couple of years, the beach is also an ‘allowed area’ at RM - but not at Pearl.

[IrishMark]

I can say that we had fun at the beach at Pearl. Due to beach erosion , there was no foot traffic and very few guests. It was us and the guys trying to clean up the sea weed and the really bad stench of decaying seaweed. As Ninaandfrank said, if you modify the question to where, then it’s pretty much ok anywhere (we haven;t had fun in the pool area when lounging around, so I wonder if it is - someone suggested we should ask the staff before doing anything) but no issue on the beach.

I think the rules exist to set up boundaries and ground rules just in case and to have a live and let live attitude. Just be respectful and not obnoxious.

Oh, the bed besides the pool at the Pearl Mansion was a fun place if you like to be watched. And the old spa at RM, we had some good times in the shower and changing area, I felt like I was living in a 1970s adult film!

Simply put, I love this place.

[travmex]

I don’t believe the staff either want the hassle or have any strong reason to get involved - unless it’s outrageous or somebody complains, and that must be rare. I don’t think they are ever going to bother two people ‘doing their thing’, unless it’s way over the top.

[ninaandfrank]

Totally agree, unless someone complains there is little chance of being stopped by staff.

They will spell it out to you at check in. But the reality is it really doesn’t matter that much because the ‘not allowed’ is never really ‘enforced’. So you’ll see it pretty much everywhere at some point. Your own decision will probably come from your own comfort level rather than rules. So just go with the flow when you get there.

[IrishMark]

I guess it my conservative self who doesn't want to get in trouble. And it is also the environment. We went to GL and there people were not doing anything. My wife and I did because we just couldn't our hands off each other by the last day because we got tired of going back to our room - but we were the exception. I asked the bartender and he didn't care. In fact, the bartender really went over the line a few times with the guests and the games were way more risque, so you'd think there would be more public play but there wasn't The extent of the public play was my wife and I and the bartender games. Back to Pearl, I think we're going to be more chilled out when we go, just not sure now if it'll be in January for the third party swingers month (where we'll have no third person in our room but the idea sounds fun) or for back half of December. I wish I could do both. I'm glad this is my addiction and not smoking LOL.

[IrishMark]

Ok y’all. We’ve decided to stick to our plan to go in January. We were talking last night when going to bed about it and my wife has a fantasy to just have sex wherever she wants and have as many people watch.
I was blown away by that and not sure if she was messing with my head but it definitely turned us on and was a great way to turn up the heat in bed thinking about it as we had sex. My conservative self is nervous as hell about getting yelled at or in trouble. But I do want to please her and allow her to enjoy the fantasy when we are there. If we’re just lounging in the beds at the quiet side of the pearl pool, I can’t imagine any guests being bothered. And can’t imagine the massage ladies being bothered on their hourly visit to see if we want a massage. Would anyone be bothered??? Ok yes I know there may be a couple or two out there that may be like hey do It somewhere else and I can handle that but can’t mentally handle being told by staff to stop. That’s a buzz kill. Please make me feel better forum !!! And ease my mind.

[sandbetweentoes]

Just got back. No need to worry..... as others did last week, play away at the quiet pool, just don't be over the top or outrageous. Nobody cares including staff/bartenders. Just pick one of beds that are shielded from view from the Tentazione restaurant.

[travmex]

Once saw 6 people having a session involving all kinds of sex toys in the middle of the day on one of the cabana beds at the side of the main pool in RM. Although it was obvious, no one - guest or staff- stared or in any way acted as if it was anything out of the ordinary. And I am certain that even if it was considered too much, no one is going to yell at guests. They would just discretely and politely ask you to cool it or take it elsewhere. And I imagine it would have to be a lot more than just two people doing their thing for that to happen. Maybe a noisy drunken orgy …….
Your concern is because you are confusing Desire with the rest of the ‘normal’ world.

[ninaandfrank]

Good topic… Well to be honest, and hopefully this wont kill the fantasy. You can’t have sex anywhere. “Huh, what, we cant have sex on the Hobachi table at Suki?” But that doesn’t mean you cant live out the fantasy. Make the most of the places where it is acceptable and leave everywhere else for your down time. For example, “we just had sex at x with the y couple watching. Now we’re starving lets get a bite in the buffet”. There are folks who will complain, but hopefully they will be few and far between. In all of our trips we were only stopped from playing twice. Both times we were in the main pool at DRM. Some lady once complained about us playing at the quiet pool at DRM but we were long finished before anyone came around. If staff does have to deal with a complaint about folks playing in public they won’t yell you make a big fuss. They’ll just tell you nicely that they are watching you or just ask you to take it to the playroom. Best thing to do is read the room, so to speak. If it looks like folks are keeping it cool then maybe a different place or time may be best. If you see others playing it is usually safe to when in Rome do as the Romans do.

P.S., the last thing a staff member wants to do is to have to go up to a couple having sex and interrupt. That's got to be the worst part of the job.

[IrishMark]

You’re right, “read the room“ as always the best way to go about it. It’s just that for such a long time my wife was always hesitant to do anything and for some reason over the past few weeks she’s been getting very frisky during our midnight chats and now I am all horned up! My mind is going wild with what she wants to do and where she wants to do it and I have to say that if she’s not messing with me, OMG, this is gonna be an awesome trip!

[kbrady]

Just got back from our second trip. Only places we saw actual intercourse was in playroom and on daybeds by jacuzzi. Saw oral at the hot tub and body shots at the Eden pool. It was a great time and regardless. Walking into the play room and seeing 8 people on one bed was a lot to take in...lol. But enjoyed playing ourselves in public.